Finder is committed to editorial independence. While we receive compensation when you click links to partners, they do not influence our content.

Sexually transmitted debt

Canada’s $160 billion dollar problem

When picking a long-term partner, we all have our dating red flags and deal breakers. While some are obvious, like bad behaviour or poor communication, others can take longer to uncover. There’s one red flag you really ought to consider before you shack up. It’s not the number of people they’ve slept with or their crazy ex-partner – it’s actually the amount of debt they could potentially offload.

Sexually transmitted debt (STD) is a reality for just under a third of Canadians. According to a new Finder survey, 31% of respondents say they’ve taken on some form of debt from a partner. We’re not talking about spare change, either. The average amount of debt Canadians have “caught” from their partners is $17,417, equating to an estimated national toll of $160 billion.

How are people acquiring sexually transmitted debt?

Thinking of combining your bank accounts? You might want to think again. The most common way people acquire sexually transmitted debt is from purchases made via a joint bank account. Over a third of Canadians who’ve inherited a debt say the joint bank account is to blame (34%), followed closely by people who’ve had purchases made specifically in their name (32%). Others say their debt was the result of a divorce settlement (12%) or their partner passing away (5%).

Another 18% of people surveyed say they inherited debt for other reasons, such as a family debt owed to in-laws. One man simply put “long story”. Enough said!

Most common types of sexually transmitted debt

Credit card debt tops the list, with more than half of inflicted Canadians (52%) taking on debt from their partner swiping and tapping away. Personal loans (20%), borrowing from family and friends (16%), auto loans (13%) and mortgages (12%) are also common forms of partner debt to take on.

Other forms of debt acquired from romantic partners include payday loans (9%), student loans (9%), home equity loans (5%), medical bills (4%), and business loans (3%).

Who’s most likely to catch a sexually transmitted debt?


Men and women are equally likely to take on a sexually transmitted debt, but the similarities end there. Women take on significantly more debt than men – on average, women take on a whopping $23,557, while men take on less than half that, at just $10,972.


Younger generations have inherited the least amount of debt. On average, generation Z has contracted a debt of $1,982, while baby boomers have acquired the highest average debt, at $28,277.

It’s not all bad news for boomers though, as they’re actually the least likely generation to take on debt from a partner. Just one in five boomers admit to STD compared to two in five people from generation Y (43%).


Across the country, British Columbians have caught the most amount of debt ($26,607), followed closely by Albertans ($26,077), Ontarians ($14,968) and Quebecers ($8,044).

How does Canada’s sexually transmitted debt compare to the United States?

A similar survey in the United States found that fewer Americans have taken on a debt from their partner than Canadians. Just 16% of Americans have some form of sexually transmitted debt, compared to 31% of Canadians.

However, Americans tend to take on more debt from their partners, with an average sexually transmitted debt of $23,238 – almost $6,000 more than Canadians.

How to prevent sexually transmitted debt:

The good news is you can protect yourself from an unexpected STD. Here are a few tips to follow:

  • Have “the talk”. Crucial to any good relationship is talking honestly about your finances. Get an idea of the types of debt your partner carries for insight into how fiscally responsible they are. Many of us still have student loans to pay off, but an ageing personal loan for a jet-ski bought a decade ago could be a red flag or even a dealbreaker.
  • Use protection for plastic. There’s no condom equivalent for debt. Still, you can get control of your finances and protect yourself from credit card debt. Don’t share your card details with your partner if you think they might spend in your name without your permission. It also might sound easier to just combine your finances but remember that if you get a joint bank account you need to be prepared to foot the bill if things go south.
  • Plan for the worst. Know if you’re covered by insurance, and by how much, in the event your partner dies. You don’t want to be left servicing huge amounts of debt you can’t afford on just your income.
  • Develop a treatment plan. Your or your partner’s debt isn’t a terminal illness. Your first step toward a cure is working out together how to do away with the debt. Consider tactics to pay it off quickly or over time.

Ask the experts

Natasha Sharma expert

Dr. Natasha Sharma, Emotional Fitness Expert, TEDx Speaker and Creator of The Kindness Journal

At what stage of a relationship is it appropriate to talk about debt?

It is appropriate from the moment it becomes clear you are planning to share life on a bigger scale (e.g. move in together or get married). That said, if one or both people carry an enormous amount of debt into the relationship, it may be worth having a conversation about that a little earlier on, but certainly only when a relationship becomes serious.

Do you have any advice for people who have unexpectedly inherited debt from a partner?

Yes – ask yourself how you managed to “unexpectedly” inherit debt? It’s one thing if your identity is stolen or compromised, and your partner – unbeknownst to you – imposes bad debt or credit against your name. This happens all too often, as we know, even by those we love. It’s quite another to not be intelligently attentive to your joint finances and how you will manage and keep track of them going forward. There aren’t many excuses then for debt being “unexpected.” The moral of this story is: openly and regularly disclose financial positions and ongoing management with serious/married partners.

On the flip side, for people who have a debt and are looking for a partner – what should they do before they enter the dating game?

I don’t think anyone’s debt or personal financial situation should ever prohibit them from dating unless they have the expectation of finding someone to support them. I guess there are always people who are willing to do that. But my view is the best and healthiest relationships are those where two fully (or working towards) independent and happy people choose to come together and be happier and share life together.


This data is from a nationally representative survey of 1,212 respondents commissioned by Finder and conducted by Pureprofile in October 2019.

More guides on Finder

  • 3 million Canadians to stop using a financial advisor in 2021

    In 2021, more than 3 million Canadians plan to stop using their financial advisor and three times as many Canadian millennials plan to stop working with one vs hiring one – wanting to save money on fees and have more control over their money.

  • Suddenly Single

    Canadians are splitting in record numbers under the stress of the pandemic. About 15% (or nearly 5 million) have split from their spouse or partner since the start of the pandemic. Find out who is finding themselves suddenly single across Canada.

  • debt relief services review

    If you’re struggling with your finances, helps you consider your debt relief options and connects you with local debt specialists.

  • Credit Card Crunch

    About half of Canadians, or around 18 million, carry a balance on their credit card. 10.5 million of these Canadians are stressed about their pandemic debt. Find out who has the most debt stress and what they are willing to do about it.

  • Where to get free help to manage debt

    Here are free services and tools to help you break the cycle of debt.

  • Credit card options for borrowers who have a high debt-to-income ratio

    Secured credit cards could be an option. But you could qualify for an unsecured card if you lower your debt.

  • Setting up a gardening business

    This step-by-step guide reveals what you need to know about launching a gardening business.

  • Finder Cryptocurrency Predictions Report: October 2020

    We asked 30 panelists for their cryptocurrency price predictions, the outlook for DeFi and how long they think high returns on yield farming might last.

  • Bank of Canada interest rate forecast September 2020

    Read Finder’s BoC Interest Rate Forecast Report for September 2020 with forecasts from some of Canada’s brightest minds in economics and property.

  • Business loan statistics

    The pandemic has been a real challenge for Canadian business owners and new research shows more than 1 in 10 Canadians plan to take out a business loan in 2021 as a result.

Go to site